Resistance got you all hot & sweaty in your yoga pants?

 
 
Photography by Brooke Cagel

Photography by Brooke Cagel

CHIN UP GIRLFRIEND! MY MESSAGE TO YOU TODAY IS A SWEET LITTLE REMINDER THAT IF YOU’RE HIT SOME RESISTANCE IN YOUR BUSINESS THEN HONESTLY WE NEED TO CUE THE CONFETTI! LET ME EXPLAIN...

Here’s the thing, we all hit roadblocks, like, frequently in our businesses. But I find one of the biggest roadblocks many of us (and when I say ‘us’, I’m talking about the collective of determined, motivated, savvy biz ladies that makes up our ‘us’!) face is when you’ve been working your arse off, you’ve put in so much work, BUT as yet you ain’t seeing any results. 

But that’s the way these things go, and it’s okay. 

You feel like you’ve been so consistent - you’ve posted regularly, you’ve created a funnel, you’ve got a lead magnet out there in the big wide world, you’ve got your email sequence sorted, you’ve been facing your fears and doing live video….

Buuuttttt… it’s slow. 

It’s quiet. 

It’s kinda painful. 

And it’s a little soul crushing.

Yea I know. 

You get a few likes, you’ve had a few messages, you’ve had a few people sign up to your email list… but it’s not what you expected, nowhere bloody near what you expected. Where’s the raving fans? Where’s the hundreds of new contacts per day you were expecting? 

Where’s the EXPLOSION?! Where’s the on-tap leads frothing at the mouth ready to BUY your thing?! 

YOU’RE ASKING YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS, GETTING FED UP WITH IT ALL AND WANTING TO THROW YOUR HANDS IN THE AIR AND SCREAM, “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH; THIS SUCKS; I’M NOT CUT OUT FOR THIS; WHY AM I SUCH A FAILURE?????”

This is your point of RESISTANCE. 

This is a GREAT place to be. 

No, I’m not crazy, okay, hear me out!!

Why is this a great place to be? It means changes are happening. 

Todd Herman (Success coach) says, “Your resistance is a sign that your system is reconfiguring itself toward success”. 

Hmmm… now how do you feel about resistance? Your system is reconfiguring towards success. Hell YES! That’s what this pain is all about. 

SO YEA, CUE THE CONFETTI, POP THE CHAMPAGNE AND CELEBRATE THE SHIZ OUT OF THE FACT THAT YOU’RE ON YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS, THANK YOU VERY MUCH! 

But let’s also give you some actual steps you can take to ensure you keep moving forward towards your success and not let that good ole’ friend resistance stop you in your tracks. 

When you end up in this place of wanting to pull your hair out, throw your hands in the air, hide in bed all day and give the fuck up, I learned a few tricks (from my good friend Danielle Laporte as part of her Desire Mapping process - click here to see more about that ), and I want to share with you these three steps to help you get focused and push forward:
 

1. GET HUNGRY. 

Feel that chip on your shoulder and use it to propel you forward. Remind yourself why.you.want.this.so.damn.much. 
Is it because you’re frustrated with your current situation in life and it’s damn well your time to shine? Are you ready to prove it to all your naysayers that you can in fact succeed? Are you fed up with this life of 9-5, of someone else dictating to you, of doing the mundane when you know you’re capable of so much more. Is it your turn dammit?
Tap into that hunger, and fire yourself up again. .

 

2. REMIND YOURSELF WHY. 

Remember the bigger, inclusive why of what’s behind your hunger. Is it to empower women to love themselves unconditionally; is it to raise human consciousness of planet earth; is it to spread the word of veganism; is it to ensure all children get an education. 
Tap back into that WHY of yours, and hold that close to your heart. 


 

3. GET REAL. 

Yes you’ve got your big vision. You’re at one with the Universe and you know that yes, she does have your back and you’re ready to manifest all that you dream of into your life.
All that is awesome, you’re ready. Now get real about how you’re actually going to execute it. Make a plan. Be meticulous. Cross your t’s and dot your i’s and understand that there’ll be sacrifices, late nights, missing out on fun things. There’ll be staring at your computer screen, tweaking, revising, DOING. 

 

And there will be moments when resistance hits and you want to give up. 

But know that when big things are about to happen is exactly when the resistance hits and when you start to feel like giving up. It gets so fucking hard, the reality of the amount of work you need to relentlessly do to achieve your big vision hits you in the face. 

The only thing to keep doing at this point is moving forward, staying hungry, reminding yourself of why and keeping it real about the steps it’s going to take to achieve and meticulously working through those steps as tedious as it may seem.


OH AND ONE MORE THING… THIS IS OH-SO-IMPORTANT. 

 

Ease up on your expectations. 

 

Yup, let go of the outcome. 

Stay firmly in tune with your hunger and your why, and have a shit-tonne of fun on the journey. With no attachment to the outcome. 

Rest assured, that if you are dialled into your vision, and you’re taking the necessary steps to achieve it, it will happen. So stop stressing about the outcome. 

Just DO. 

So, my friend, you’ve hit some resistance which is totally normal, it’s also cause for celebration, because after the resistance comes the momentum. 

So it’s not give up time. No, no no. It’s tune in time. It’s dig in time. It’s tweak, make changes, review and try again time! That’s what business and life is all about.

 
 
Written by Jess Willman
 
 
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